Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Where Are Your Parents???

So, on tha heels of tha whole Sexy Spec gay grinding/twirling challenge, I came across another video that was infinitely more troubling.

I wanna start with tha most important question, which is: WHERE ARE THEIR PARENTS AT??? If there are any Moms, Dads, Aunts or Uncles reading this, let this be a lesson to you. Check up on yo daggone kids from time to time. Real talk. When they dissapear into tha basement or tha den with tha video camera, bust in on they asses every so often. They could be barricaded in that room doing ANYTHING, as you can clearly see here.

Second...we need to talk openly about sexuality. Do any of these young men think its just a tad bit gay to be humping tha walls, floors, ottoman, and/or air with a trashy slow jam playing in tha background while in tha company of 5 of your best male friends? Is this considered normal behavior amongst heterosexual boys? Or are they confused? I mean...if they're gay, then they just are, and I suppose that's fine. For some reason, though, I feel like if they were called "Gay" or if someone inquired about their sexuality, they would be mad offended and quick to defend their "manhood". So, then, is this how heterosexual young men act? Honestly, I feel like this behavior is symbolic of some repressed sexuality. I could be wrong, but then again, this whole thing is wrong, so...hey.

Third...I think a lot of this is a result of group mentality. Like all of us, these young men have absorbed a lot of tha images and messages from tha media and really right now they're probably just re-enacting some of whut they've seen. There are a lot of flamboyant men skipping about nowadays, getting alot of media attention or just creating their own buzz via Youtube and whut not. Nowadays, tha more deviant, tha better. Aside from being black in America (which obviously, everyone can't achieve) tha most deviant thing you can probably be is homosexual. I think on a subconscious level, young folks in particular are leaning toward flamboyant "homosexual" behavior and exploiting it to get attention, or "be different". Whutever tha case, if this is tha future of Black Manhood, tha Lord just need to go on and take me now.

In closing...I would like to recommend rigorous ass whoopins and gut punches for everybody involved in tha making of this video, as I am forever scarred.


  1. The worst thing is... this is not the first video of its kind that I've personally seen. A different group of boys doing the same thing (without the intro) a few years back. I thought it was off then... I think it's off now.

  2. *sigh*
    This is ridiculous; Im at work now and couldnt fully see the video all at once. And Im glad I saw it in parts....seeing it in parts still made me cringe. This is just...as I said before...ridiculous smh...

  3. Oh! I had one other thing to say other than 'ridiculous'.
    You asked if this is what young men do these days. My little brother is 18 and he is NOTHING like this lol. The media DEF has an influence on youth but like you said, it ALL goes back to solid parenting. My brother would prob look at this video and shake his head, call it gay and get angry all in one fell swoop. These dudes in the vid? Subliminally gay in my eyes. I mean when the vid is done and the camera is no longer going, I wondered what they did after. Ew.

  4. a very insightful observation I been buggin on the whole "jerk" shit going on now. at first it just seemed like dudes like Lupe puttin some of the skateboard culture into HipHop, but now some dudes just look straight confused (no pun intended) even foos who a few months back would've been rockin looser fitting aparrels. but yyeah. I like your conclusion hahaha.

  5. This was thee most homoerotic sh!t I've ever seen. I agree w/ everything you said. Where are the parents? I couldn't even close my bedroom door for more than a few mintues w/o my parents busting in. Hell they paid the mortgage so the ish was fine w/ me. And yes I also agree that if u questioned any of these young men's manhood they'd be ready to fight. And lastly, what young girl watched their youtube video & was actually turned on by it? I think this is great that you posted this. I also think we should also ALL post our responses on their youtube page so that they can read/see that THIS IS NOT OKAY!!!

  6. nikki. after the ricky post and now this one...i am a little afraid of your blog. i see things here that have found a place in my mind that i fear will never be able to make right again. maybe you should put a big disclaimer with big flashing letters like "THIS IS NOT A POEM. YOU MAY WATCH THIS AND NEVER BE RIGHT AGAIN" maybe not those exact words but you get my point.

    i did some stupid things when i was 14 or 15 or 29 but humping with the homies was not one of them. it would have never even occurred to me. i dont know what you say or do to these type of dudes to make them see their gross error (im not sure if that pun was intended or not put im going to go with it).